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Friends are necessary in our lives, but they also come and go. They’ve stopped returning emails, posting pictures of you and them or commenting on your feeds. All of these things come naturally and is something that we’ve all dealt with.
But at the same time, we can’t stop and think about why this happens all the time. Well, not any longer. Today, let’s talk about some of the reasons that lead to people drifting apart.
NOT MAKING TIME FOR THEM
Like with any relationship, the bond strengthens the more time is spent together. Once you start drifting apart, you’re spending less and less time together. So if you want to avoid this, it’s essential that you treat your friends on equal ground as family and your partner. You want to make a point of being around them.
When you don’t allot time with them, they’re simply going to leave and move on. All you need to do is allot that time and make sure that they have someone they can rely on as they walk through life.
NOT KEEPING PROMISES
No matter what, empty promises hurt a lot. Cancelling plans on the last moment and the constant random excuses get tiring. After a while, your friends are going to assume your excuses aren’t genuine and will leave you behind.
To fix this, you want to make a point of giving them advance notice depending on the situation. If it’s a time to hangout, telling them the morning of or the night before is alright. How you deal with plans that fall throw shows to your friends where they fall on your priority list. Making sure you give advance notice suggests you place them on higher priorities compared to those who cancel last minute.
MAKING THEM FEEL INFERIOR OR INSIGNIFICANT
Two other signs are when you instil feelings of inferiority or insignificance.
Talking about your successes and achievements is fine, but there is a fine line between discussing them and bragging about them.When it gets to the point where you are looking down at them or constantly comparing them to you, they feel less.
When it comes to insignificance, the big thing here is whether you bring them along and they feel very much the third wheel. When going to gatherings, it’s important that they’re a part of the conversation and that they’re not there simply for the ride.
YOU’RE BEING NEGATIVE
Everyone has a little bit of pessimism at times, but the question is whether you are negative from time to time or all the time. Naturally, no one wants to spend time around someone who is constantly complaining or being negative.
Yes, friends are to be there during low times, but if being negative is your personality, people will move on.
NOT SPENDING MONEY
When you’re with friends, it’s to be expected that you will spend some money. The big thing is whether you spend that money or not. Friends footing the bill from time to time is cool, but if you’re rushing to the bathroom every time the bill comes or you leave your wallet or card behind on a regular basis, that’s something else.
Remember that their money is as valuable as yours, so make sure you’re footing the bill from time to time or splitting it up.
MAKING NO ADJUSTMENTS
Hanging out is cool, but decisions also play a significant role too. For example, say your friend invites you to a movie, but you decide to pick the movie and never ask for their opinion. This is bad because you’re not considering their views or opinions and you’re imposing your own choices on them.
If you’re someone who never adjusts to your friends’ desires from activities to your own schedule, they’re going to get frustrated.
LACK OF TRUST, MANNERS, AND GRATITUDE
The last three are a lack of trust, manners and gratitude.
Trust should come to no surprise. It is important and having that broken once or multiple times will damage a relationship. This can be as small as keeping secrets to larger things like breaking promises. All of this causes a strain and puts you into a position where you can’t be trusted.
When it comes to manners it’s common sense. When food is offered to you, you don’t take the entire thing. If you need their phone or something, you ask them permission to use it.
The last thing is gratitude which people can trip over. Gratitude is key because it shows that you appreciate their company. This can be conveyed in so many ways, but the easiest way is to say thank you more often.
But at the same time, we can’t stop and think about why this happens all the time. Well, not any longer. Today, let’s talk about some of the reasons that lead to people drifting apart.
NOT MAKING TIME FOR THEM
Like with any relationship, the bond strengthens the more time is spent together. Once you start drifting apart, you’re spending less and less time together. So if you want to avoid this, it’s essential that you treat your friends on equal ground as family and your partner. You want to make a point of being around them.
When you don’t allot time with them, they’re simply going to leave and move on. All you need to do is allot that time and make sure that they have someone they can rely on as they walk through life.
NOT KEEPING PROMISES
No matter what, empty promises hurt a lot. Cancelling plans on the last moment and the constant random excuses get tiring. After a while, your friends are going to assume your excuses aren’t genuine and will leave you behind.
To fix this, you want to make a point of giving them advance notice depending on the situation. If it’s a time to hangout, telling them the morning of or the night before is alright. How you deal with plans that fall throw shows to your friends where they fall on your priority list. Making sure you give advance notice suggests you place them on higher priorities compared to those who cancel last minute.
MAKING THEM FEEL INFERIOR OR INSIGNIFICANT
Two other signs are when you instil feelings of inferiority or insignificance.
Talking about your successes and achievements is fine, but there is a fine line between discussing them and bragging about them.When it gets to the point where you are looking down at them or constantly comparing them to you, they feel less.
When it comes to insignificance, the big thing here is whether you bring them along and they feel very much the third wheel. When going to gatherings, it’s important that they’re a part of the conversation and that they’re not there simply for the ride.
YOU’RE BEING NEGATIVE
Everyone has a little bit of pessimism at times, but the question is whether you are negative from time to time or all the time. Naturally, no one wants to spend time around someone who is constantly complaining or being negative.
Yes, friends are to be there during low times, but if being negative is your personality, people will move on.
NOT SPENDING MONEY
When you’re with friends, it’s to be expected that you will spend some money. The big thing is whether you spend that money or not. Friends footing the bill from time to time is cool, but if you’re rushing to the bathroom every time the bill comes or you leave your wallet or card behind on a regular basis, that’s something else.
Remember that their money is as valuable as yours, so make sure you’re footing the bill from time to time or splitting it up.
MAKING NO ADJUSTMENTS
Hanging out is cool, but decisions also play a significant role too. For example, say your friend invites you to a movie, but you decide to pick the movie and never ask for their opinion. This is bad because you’re not considering their views or opinions and you’re imposing your own choices on them.
If you’re someone who never adjusts to your friends’ desires from activities to your own schedule, they’re going to get frustrated.
LACK OF TRUST, MANNERS, AND GRATITUDE
The last three are a lack of trust, manners and gratitude.
Trust should come to no surprise. It is important and having that broken once or multiple times will damage a relationship. This can be as small as keeping secrets to larger things like breaking promises. All of this causes a strain and puts you into a position where you can’t be trusted.
When it comes to manners it’s common sense. When food is offered to you, you don’t take the entire thing. If you need their phone or something, you ask them permission to use it.
The last thing is gratitude which people can trip over. Gratitude is key because it shows that you appreciate their company. This can be conveyed in so many ways, but the easiest way is to say thank you more often.
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